Have you ever pushed back something you had to do, but you pushed it back 20-30 minutes and later that day you felt yourself go into an instant panic because you forgot to do it? It’s called PROCRASTINATION. Procrastination can sometimes get the best of us, especially if we’re just enjoying ourselves for the time being. You can be chilling in the living room, watching movies with your family, then all of a sudden remember you had to do laundry today. Everybody and their mama has procrastinated at least 10 times in their life. Nobody is perfect so of course it is okay to procrastinate, BUT (I want to really emphasize the “but”) you do not want to be one of those people who nobody can trust to stick to a deadline. To become a better procrastinator or to stop procrastinating, I am going to give you a few tips.
Tip 1: Use the “Calendar” and “Reminders” apps on your phone.
I cannot stress the importance of these apps. The “Calendar” app has helped my memory so much. There were times where I would get invited somewhere and would agree to attend the event knowing I cannot go since I already had prior engagements. Then I have to weigh the importance of both events and explain to the person why I had to cancel last minute. Like nobody has time to do all that. Now I just put every event or task in my calendar. When I need to remind myself about something I use the “Reminders” app. On that app, my alerts are set to remind me every day because sometimes I can be very forgetful.
Tip 2: It is okay to say no and mean it.
I’m the type of person where if someone else is happy, then I’m happy. This trait can sometimes be bad because if you’re doing something for someone else that could potentially ruin things for you then why do it? For example, say you’re in college and you have a midterm paper due tonight by 11:59 pm but your best friend wants you to go to a party with her. Now with you being a kind person and you wanna get lit, you tell her yes you’ll go with her but y'all will have to leave early. Now you know you need all of the time you can get to finish your paper so why are you going to a party?! With that scenario, I would suggest you say, “unfortunately I won’t be able to go with you tonight because I have to finish my paper and I need all of the time I can get.” If she’s a REAL friend, she would understand or even try and help you with your paper. Now if she begs and pleads you to go with her or says “you boosie for not coming,” then honey *looks disappointed* she don’t care about you being successful or isn’t trying to help you succeed, therefore she is not your friend. Basically what I’m saying is you can say no to doing something without offending yourself and/or that person.
Tip 3: Don’t take on more than what you can bear.
Everyone has their own tolerance level. You should know how much you can take on without overworking yourself. Know what your limit is and stick to it. For example, if you know you need at least 7-8 hours of sleep (personally I need 8-9 hours otherwise I know I’m not about to have a good day) then you should set aside 7-8 hours for sleep and stick to it.
Have you heard the phrase “it is human?” Well IT IS HUMAN to procrastinate. As human beings we are expected to procrastinate. You shouldn’t feel bad nor beat yourself up if you procrastinate. Just take it as a life lesson and find different solutions to better the problem. PERIODT!